[meimei]

Hi there,
I'm sort of having the same problem. My baby is only 8.5 months old. She's also very attached to my helper. My helper is also excellent and has been looking after her since birth. I brought my baby to Kindermusik and I need to ask my helper to step out of the room because my baby would keep looking at her instead of enjoying the class with me. She was crying a lot but I insisted on that for a couple of times and now she's o.k. I personally think we should try to spend as much time with our baby as possible and do let the grandparents handle him more often so he's more use to other people. My friend's son also cried and screamed for the helper when he was sick once. I think when they are sick they just tend to look for the person they are most attached to. They can't help looking for the helper since that's the person that looks after them the most. I think this is just a phase though. Probably after they reach 4 or 5, they will certainly know that you're his mom. That's what my friend told me. Anyway, I guess this is what we pay for for having the convenience of a helper to look after our baby....

Originally Posted by Tong.kate

Dear Parents,

My baby boy is 14 months now. He used to be very cute and love smiling. Recent week, he was sick and tend to be easy crying. Even he is getting better now, he still easy to cry. Also, when my domestic helper go to toilet, kithen or excuse for a while, he cried a lot, and always looking for her. My friend told me that her son was like that...but addict to mommy. I am worrying if this is normal, as he is quite outgoing before, not stick to particular person only. Also, he is so addict to Domestic helper, may imply my care/bonding to him is not enough? When this situation will be improved? I am a bit sad about that.
Also, he goes to playgroup during weekdays with Grand parent, in recent times, he insist to have helper to attend playgroup with him, instead of grandma/pa, it is also a bit sad to grand,a/pa. Should we allow him to accompany with helper, so that he can well attend and enjoy the playgroup, or we should insist grandpa with him, even he may keep walking or looking for helper during playgroup? very confusing? worry if allow more accompanying by helper may even make it difficult to sepepate him from helper and be dependent, or does it imply spoiling?
Anyone can share with me?

(BTW, nothing wrong with my helper, as she always good to my baby since he born. She take care of his daily routines well and play with him when I go to work. Grand parent visit him every afternoon during weekday.)