| Agree with everyone. it's so normal for working moms, and we all work through the same issues. my girl 1.5 yo now gets attached to different people at different times.
Morning is daddy (that's the only time she sees daddy for a while), she won't even kiss me in the morning, during the day is grandmas and helpers, who are her main caretaker throughout the day, we are lucky to have two helpers who we switch around weekly in taking care of her and household work (that helps a bit with the attachment problem), but she still prefers one over the other. and she is more attached to me for bedtime (i am insistent that i put her to bed every night). but the attachment to me has only started the past few months.
It was very depressing before for me as well, when you feel like you are so low down on the 'attachment list', it's like helpers, grandmothers, daddy and then maybe it's my turn. that totally sucks... but i guess be consistent in 'fighting' for time with your baby, it will pay off. for example at playgroups, i try get my helper out of site, she still asks for her when she gets tired, but the reaction tends to be less if she does not see her around.
Know that you have a lot of other moms in the same boat, and also be grateful that your helper is given your baby such good care.  |