| I have to disagree with sumei's comment that there isn't such a thing as happy, secure, well adjusted children who come from 2 career familes.
While I myself am in the fortunate postion of being able to choose to be a fulltime mum, for others that in not a choice they can make for economic reasons.
Making people feel that they are harming their children by going to work isn't very fair.
I worked as a Nanny in HK for 6 years, and saw great examples of loving families, who through either choice or nescessity both parents worked fulltime.
The addition of caring helpers and nannies, only meant that the children had additional people who loved them.
Be happy if you find a helper or nanny that your child will take comfort from.
When children are young, they need to attach to a primary caregiver, so if during this time that happens to be a nanny or helper, it's not actually the child that is suffering it's the mummy!
The child can still be happy and secure, as long as he is cared for and loved.
As children get older, relationships broaden and eventually they understand who is who, and generally they understand that no-one can take the place of mummy and daddy.
The happiest family I've ever known, had two fulltime working parents.
They just set things up as best as they could to make sure there was balance.
One or both of them was always home for stories and bedtime.
Weekends were about the family, they would spend the time together doing activites they could all enjoy such as camping, hiking, going to the beach etc.
I'm sure a lot of us grew up in 2 income households, where we didn't have the advantage of one to one care, and instead were in daycare.
I was, and i like to think that I'm not too maladjusted!  |