Hi, I hope I can be some reassurance!
I have a 3yr old.
I am a stay at home mum (who works flexi hours from home), and I take my daughter to the park etc a lot, so I have seen a lot of helpers and their relationships with the children (the true side) ... I have to say, i am appalled at how some of them treat the children - not cruelly, but without passion or .. well .. love! Often chatting on the phone whilst half heartedly pushing the swing, frolicking with other helpers and NOT the children. (This is absolutely NOT all of them - I am not generalizing here).
So I guess, what I am saying is if you have found a helper that obviously loves your baby as much as she does and has bonded so well, then this is a good thing. Children thrive on love and are happier, more confident and socially adapted when showered with more love! (You cant spoil a child with love).
As long as when you are with your baby it is you who looks after him exclusively - i.e. you give him 100% of your time, then your child will bond with you too.
Your child will not be as familiar with you - naturally because he/her is with the helper more, but be rest assured, if you give him/her everything you honestly can when you are with him/her then he/her will love you more.
xxx
P.S. Sorry couldnt work out if your baby is girl or boy
