| as a mother of two, i can tell you that your children will KNOW that you are the mother! of course it hurts our feelings when the little ones fall down and want a cuddle from the helper and not from you. but, look at it this way.... a child can NEVER have too mcuh love! isn't your child lucky to have another person around to comfort them when their sick, to fix that "boo boo" when you are not able to be around yourself?
just remember, although your helper may be the one they look for this time, it will be just around the corner when they will only want mummy!!!
my 2.5 yr old goes through stages, in the car we have a tradition...whenever we stop at a red light, i reach back and hold his hand until it turns green. there is NO ONE else in van that he will do this with and he gets very upset with me if i forget. tonight coming home, he wanted me to sing a special song to him. when daddy tried to sing along, he got very upset... "only mummy sing!!!"
BUT, around the house, he follows daddy like a little puppy dog...he'll play with the helper quite happily, but if i give him the choice of staying home and playing with her or coming out with me...99.9% of the time he chooses me.
it will be the same with you too!!!
chin up! you're the mum and you know it and so does your baby!  |