| Had similar experience. I work full time so baby spends most of his waking hours with the helper. As he goes to sleep at around 8, I really just have 2 or 3 hours with him each day. I don't remember exactly when but there was a short period of time (probably when he's a few months old) when he wouldn't go to sleep without the helper. When we played, his eyes would follow the helper and when she came near, he would just stop everything and give her his biggest smile. It did bother me sometimes that my baby appeared to prefer the helper more than his own mum. I noticed a shift when he's 6 months. My husband and I took him to manila for a short trip. We didn't take the helper so we got to spend some quality time with him. I don't know if it was just coincidence, but since that trip, he started showing preference for me. Now he is 1 year and I don't feel threatened by the helper anymore because he is giving me all the signs that he knows I'm mummy and that he wants me - when i come home from work, he would smile, scream (happy scream) and walk towards me to welcome me home, sometimes even give me big hugs. The sweetest is when he rest his head on my shoulder!
So you really need not to worry. In fact, I think you should be happy that when you are at work, your baby is going to be with someone whom she feels happy, safe and secured with.  |