| This post is so sad. I have no helper, so I can't say from that perspective, but I used to worry the same way when my children were in a dayhome (similar to daycare, except in a private home with one caretaker). What helped me was that because my children were cared for out of the home there was a clear distinction between our home and mom, and the care taker. You could make the same distinction by being the only one (and your husband) who takes care of your child when you are at home, mornings and evenings and weekends, so your helper only does housework or shopping or non child related activites when you are in the home. Treat it almost as if you were taking her out to daycare. You could do all the care, and pass baby off to the helper only when you are out of the house. |