| yep, we had the conversation with my m-i-l that our children are NOT just chinese, they are also canadian, so some things will be done chinese way and some things won't
both of our kids have full english names (first & middle) and full chinese names.
we didn't chose their chinese names in the traditional manner though... we didn't use the calendar and go to the feng shui guy...my hubby did ask for input from his family on the chinese names and he and i worked together to come up with the english names...the only say i had over the chinese name was that it didn't sound like anything in english (i had a taxi driver named YU TIT MAN once and i swore i would not give my child a name like that)...
hubby has to continually remind ma-ma that we are the parents and what we say, is the final word... this is not a very traditional view of raising children. for the most part, she's ok with it, however, she does occasionally really p*ss me off, i try not to show it...and realise that she has the best of intentions and everything she does, she does from love, not malice.
however, to the OP, it seems that your in-laws view you as a meal ticket... i'd beware and set the ground rules WITH your wife long before they make landfall state-side.  |