Quote:
Originally Posted by mamainhk  Hi there,
Congrats Chess and good luck in your search.
Mom2Sophie&Twins :I am also expecting twins due in Feb. I was thinking to employ one helper to begin with. Did not really think the 2nd was necessary (managing helpers is a lot of work, I know from previous experience) but fully respect the experienced twin mum view! What does the nighttime helper do? Since I am the one who will nurse the babies, what will she do to help me? What else does she do during day time or does she become solely responsible for helping with babies. We have a space restriction (live in mid levels) hence the biggest concern as well as having too many people around me. |
Please let me start by saying that my situation was very different. I lived in the States, had no (live in) helper, so I was basically on my own. In the US it's easy to find a night nurse, who will help you with feeding the babies, changing them, rocking them and putting them back down (it's not just the feeding time ... believe you me, can largely vary on the child). I've spoken to plenty of moms and it easily can take up to an hour (sometimes more) to feed, change and get back to sleep 1 child, if you add another one, and they wake up every 3 hours ... there is not much for sleep left. Mine were pretty fast, and in the beginning we would wake the other one if number 1 woke however at some point you start noticing a difference in sleeping patterns and you have to investigate how long they can sleep etc. Things can get pretty hard then.
I was bottle feeding so slightly different, as I basically didn't have to be there, but I even know twin moms who had night nurses (that's how they call them) just to help with all other aspects during the night feedings TIMES 2! Again, I have no idea whether it exists in Hong Kong, but I would imagine you only have somebody coming to your place overnight, so not staying during the day. I think it's still hard for a "regular helper" to expect her to fully take care of new born twins. I could hardly do it by myself as a mom, imagine all the other house hold chores that need to be done. So if you are more rested then you should be able to deal with the twins as well. Try to talk to other twin mommies who had their twins in HK. This is just my (American) experience. I just wanted to share it. The first 2-3 weeks are pretty easy, twins sleeping a lot ... but once they get older, close to 6-8 weeks it's definitely getting harder. It's just a lot of work, but fun too!