| first.... STOP INSULTING YOURSELF! AIYA! you will never feel confident when it comes to raising your child if you don't stop that nonsense!!!
how do you think the rest of us manage? we use trial and error. we are not born with answers, we try things out and see if it works, if not,then we try something else. all we can tell you is what worked for us.
you realise that the more you say/hear something, the more you believe it, right? so, if you are constantly telling yourself that youa re a useless mother, then guess what??? it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy!!!!
no one likes to see their baby cry! no one!
i never did CIO either, as i didn't have the heart for it.
when you are preparing dinner, why don't you put the baby into the highchair and pull the highchair into the doorway of hte kitchen? then the baby can see you and you can interact with her. you can give her a book to read or s piece of apple to chew or something?
as for the crying... the fact that she wants you to sit up makes me think that it is comfort that she is looking for. she could still be in pain but she feels comforted by your actions.
tylenol and panadol are exactly the same thing. if you are unsure, take her to the doctor. the doctor might be able to prescribe something for her and then you will have the dosage correct.
when my kids went through this, i would sit on the bed and then slowly inch my way down to a sleeping position for me. it seemed to work for me SOMETIMES.
now... go to the bathroom mirror and repeat the following 100x and do it every time you feel useless:
"I am a smart woman and a good mother. I do the best I can for my baby. I don't always have the answers, but that doesn't make me useless."  |