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Does anyone know if there are any 'sleep schools' in HK? In Australia, many of the hospitals run sleep schools for babies under 12 months. I am moving to HK in July and will not have time to attend one before I leave, but really need to get some help with babies sleeping.

Thank you.

[jane01]

GO TO SLEEP SCHOOL BEFORE YOU LEAVE AUSTRALIA !!!!!!!!!

Despite an excellent medical care system in Hong Kong, privately available midwives, etc, etc, I could not find anyone to help me with sleep when I needed it. I was so desperate I ended up travelling back to Australia and visiting one there (twice). I'm proud to say that after a lot of hard work, I now have an excellent sleeper (touch wood).

I've heard of a sleep consultant who will do phone consultations from Australia - Tizzie. www.saveoursleep.com.

There is a real business opportunity in HK for someone with the right skills.

For a laugh, here are some of the responses I received in HK to my sleep problems:

La Leche league - breastfeed more frequently to increase milk supply - well, this left baby screaming probably with a tummy ache and me close to giving up b/f b/c of lack of sleep and soreness
Private midwife - put baby in bed with you - I've never gotten less sleep than I did that night, thinking I'd squash her - never again. Sleep when baby sleeps - well, nice idea, but baby never slept for more than half an hour at a time.
Private baby clinic - try controlled cyring (this was at 2 weeks old, no thanks)
Public baby clinic - let the maid get up to the baby at night - I didn't have a baby for the maid to attend to her needs !!

Goodluck.

[j_s]

maybe hire a professional nanny with baby nursing skills for a few nights? the amount Rent-a-Mum charge, they'd want to be able to offer some useful advice.

all those suggestions are exactly what the sleep schools in Melbourne say NOT to do. imagine feeding the baby every time it wakes; that will teach him/her to wake more, not less.

ps: that link needs the "www" taken out to work, otherwise it goes to a "placeholder" page. )

[barbwong_130]

The sleep schools in Australia may tell you that all the methods mentioned before to help a baby sleep are wrong but many health professionals believe that the cry it out methods used by the schools are dangerous for the baby.

The Australian Association of Infant Mental Health Policy Statement on Controlled Crying makes very compelling reading.
http://www.afcca.com.au/Files/Child%...g%20AAIMHI.doc

The two web sites that I found helpful when my baby was waking up more than I could cope with are:

8 INFANT SLEEP FACTS EVERY PARENT SHOULD KNOW
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070200.asp

and

31 WAYS TO GET YOUR BABY TO GO TO SLEEP AND STAY ASLEEP MORE EASILY
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070300.asp

Barb

[j_s]

yes, but that afcca document only says crying is a problem if it indicates distress. much controlled crying or crying it out only means leaving them protesting, which is different.

speaking from the pov of nearly four months of being woken between four and six times a night, there comes a point where you have to balance the mothers' health and its effects on the baby against attachment parenting methods. after trying pretty much everything on both those sites, (except co-sleeping as it makes my sleep and my baby's sleep worse) I'm left with nothing but some form of controlled crying.

this is what Dr Sears says at the end of that document, after all the stuff about just waiting for them to grow out of it:

"Even though you understand why babies are prone to nightwaking, you realize it's still important for parents and babies to get a restful night's sleep, otherwise, baby, the parents, and their relationship won't thrive."

I am probably risking starting a sleep methods argument here, but he's contradicted himself - "just wait, but make sure you get sleep as well" - and not really offered any practical solution to women in my situation.

exhausted, depressed mothers shouldn't be told they just have to put up with it by that sort of guilt-mongering

[aldougie]

Agree with controlled crying but it shouldn't be done before a baby is a minimum of 6 months old - current health professional recommendations.

To the original poster - I'd be very surprised if you can get anyone to do it for you in HK and that includes professional nannies in HK - I tried to bribe people to do it! We did have someone who walked us through the whole process and provided moral support but ultimately it was down to us and it actually wasn't as awful as we imagined - 3 days and she slept through although she isn't now!

If you want to know who advised us then send me a private message.

[svasbt]

When my baby was 10 weeks old, I was totally miserable. He couldn't sleep, we couldn't sleep, and the lack of sleep meant I didn't produce enough milk. It was awful.

Then a mother I know introduced me to "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth, and I thought yeah, as if I would have the time to read. Well... aren't I ever glad I did read that book. The methods might not be suitable to every mother or every child, but they worked perfectly well for us. It was so hard on the parents (more than the child) at first, but I'm still overwhelmed by the result. I read the book when our son was 11 weeks old, started introducing the method when he was 3 months old, and when he turned 3 1/2 months old, he slept throught the night (8:45 to 8:45). And his last bottle was at about 8 p.m. Up until 15 months old, he slept from 7 to 7, plus 3 naps a day! Now at 16 months old, he still has 2 naps a day, totalling about 3 hours. And he tells us when he wants to go to sleep. We can't be any happier.

I got the book through Amazon.com. Good Luck.

[j_s]

My baby's obviously a hard case, because I've just finished Weissbluth's "Sleep Well" and still have the problem. To be honest, though I took all his points about good napping etc on board, I couldn't find anything in it to address our current specific problem, which is not *getting* him to sleep, but stopping him waking again 90 minutes later.

I did find that Weissbluth spent a lot of space on case studies and long explanations of why sleep was good - and why parents may not understand how to promote it - and even a chapter on how mothers' anxiety/marital problems can be to blame (guilt again!), Sleep Well didn't actually give a point-by-point guide, and he seems to assume that you're either rocking the baby to sleep (bad) or going all the way to full-bore crying it out (good, he says). maybe the book you read is better.

and you're right that there's no point trying to train smaller babies. mine is seven months and the waking started when he was about 15 weeks.