[nicolejoy]

It took us over 12 months. We started seeing some doctors about it. I went to a specialist about it - she just told me to try using ovulation kits for a few months and come back... we were just thinking about scheduling another appointment to look into alternatives and lo and behold I was pregnant naturally.

It was SO hard for me when people would announce their pregnancies when I was trying so hard... especially people who would complain because they didn't WANT to be pregnant!!

I think I've learnt a lot this past year on ways to improve your chances... and I'd totally recommend ovulation kits - I think that's really what helped us to "time it right"... It can be a long road, trying to fall pregnant... I'm just 5 weeks now - and it's still hard to believe... I had been disappointed so many times before!! I'd think I was late and take a test for it to be negative and my period would start that afternoon. At first, I didn't want to believe that I actually was pregnant because I felt I was setting myself up for another disappointment. I wouldn't believe it until I got the blood test done as well!!

[Sage]

Congrats Nicole! It's so heartening to hear about your experiences. I know you'll enjoy your pregnancy. It's the most magical time and even though it won't seem like it, you'll find that nine months breeze by in the blink of an eye! My nine months felt more like three months. I was working and I wished now that I had more time to enjoy "being preggers." :)

[Enchanted]

Ectopic the 1st month, pregnant the 2nd month, 4 yrs later (33 yrs young now) been trying 4 months and nothing....I suspect its a little crazy, but I can't help myself starting to feel a little worried.

Am amazed at how many people including complete strangers are telling me that my DS needs a sibling. I know they mean well but of course it doesnt help.

Caught between counting my blessings we were so lucky the 1st time and close friends are childless after numerous treatments.

[sunniefaith]

Originally Posted by Enchanted

Am amazed at how many people including complete strangers are telling me that my DS needs a sibling. I know they mean well but of course it doesnt help.

Caught between counting my blessings we were so lucky the 1st time and close friends are childless after numerous treatments.

Why bother what others say? As long as you're happy and your child and family is happy, that's all that matters isn't it? We're planning to adopt and at a workshop that we attended, there was this childless couple that gave up on fertility treatment. They didn't seem to happy when we mentioned that we want to adopt a child not because we can't have our own but because we want to give an abandoned child a family. They looked at us with eyes that seem to say, you can make your own kids but you're not! And to me, so what? I want to help and that's my choice.

[Enchanted]

Sunniefaith,

I think that it is a wonderful thing that you do to adopt, especially when you have the choice.

I think that takes courage and unconditional loving.

[sunniefaith]

Originally Posted by Enchanted

Sunniefaith,

I think that it is a wonderful thing that you do to adopt, especially when you have the choice.

I think that takes courage and unconditional loving.

Thanks! So don't worry what others say. Ignoring others is sometimes bliss!

[mel_g20]

One of the hardest things to go through is infertility, and although you know you shouldnt listen to what other people say - it is almost impossible to be rational. It took me 4 years to get pregnant, and finally through IVF I have 2 beautiful children. During the time I was trying to get pregnant, it took over my life. I was trying to come to terms with the fact I may never have a baby. I was so happy for friends getting pregnant, but heartbroken at the same time. Its almost impossible to talk to others, the sympathy kills you -all you want is a baby. Nothing anyone says can help. I try to be open now with other people about my babies being born through IVF, just so others can draw hope and perhaps open up.

[adahc]

Embarassingly once, one day to be exact. We were 2 busy professional couple. I even know the date my baby was conceived.