Helper ****ing Baby
- 06-25-2007, 09:40 PM #9Registered User
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well, needless to say you have a helper who loves your baby very much. but i understand that it feels werid for you to see her **** your baby. i would talk to her nicely & frankly. i would say sth like, "hey, i really really appreciate you being so nice & loving to my baby, and we're soooo lucky to have hired you who treats my daughter like your own. but frankly, it makes me uncomfortable for you to **** her. you know, in our culture ****ing is an intimate thing, and i know you want to show your affection & i can appreciate that. but for my sake, can you just **** her on her hand, or sth. hm.. it really bothers me when you **** her.... and since i'm on the subject, it also makes me uncomfortable seeing her sleep in your bed. maybe you can hold her & rest on the sofa, but not in your bed. then it'd make me feel so much better... and no hard feelings." sth like that... good luck!
- 06-26-2007, 02:43 PM #10Registered User
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I felt strange the first time I saw my previous DH **** my LO but then I thought that just meant she loved my LO. I didn't tell her not to because I just couldn't find a nice way to say it without sounding mean. Actually I walked in on her giving LO a **** on the cheek (she thought I was out) and she never ****ed LO in front of me.
I have seen my new one **** my LO a few times and I don't say anything either. However, once my LO told DH that her lips hurt and my DH ****ed her on the lips. I was in the bathroom at that time and my mom told me afterwards. I haven't addressed the issue with DH yet because I am thinking how to phrase it so she won't feel hurt by it. I don't mind ****ing the cheeks, but definitely not on the lips as I don't even **** LO on the lips.
- 06-26-2007, 03:34 PM #11Baby Guru
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I think the more ****es the better. Love is miraculous, you can give it and give it and still not use it up.
I was holding a friend's baby at church the other day (giving her a break) and I gave him little pecks on the top of his lovely baby head.
I can't imagine looking after and holding a baby every day and not cuddling and ****ing and singing little songs to it.
But, then, I am from a ****ing culture. I still **** my parents good night (when I visit them). I **** my friends hello and good-bye.
- 06-26-2007, 04:13 PM #12Registered User
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I think ****ing on lips is definite no-no cos I once read a story about a baby who died because her grandmother ****ed her on the lips. Grandmother had the virus that causes cold sores. I also have this virus and so never **** my baby on the lips either.
- 06-26-2007, 04:25 PM #13Registered User
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****ing your baby is one thing, ****ing your baby and wishing her goodnight after you have already done it is another. That would be a definite no no for me. The last people our children should see at night are the parents.
- 06-26-2007, 05:20 PM #14Registered User
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****ing on the lips? no way!
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