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Confinement lady recommendation?

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    cicci is offline Registered User
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    Oct 2006
    Hong Kong
    Was curious so I quickly took a look at some confinement recipes...not surprisingly, there is nothing special about them other than the fact that it is healthy food which anyone can prepare. I agree with Sumei, if you're breastfeeding, I don't really understand how much help a confinement lady can provide. With my son, I was feeding pretty much every two to three hours for one hour at a time, so really there wasn't much time for anything else. And when he wasn't eating, he was sleeping.

  2. #10
    Arwen is offline Registered User
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    Nov 2005
    Tai Hang
    I am due for delivery in late April and still looking for a pui yuet... if I have to survive without one, then I will order this prepacked tonic soups that my friend has recommended... go to this website for more info.. All we have to do is to buy the chicken and boil it together with the prepacked tonic ingredients. There are twenty-eight packs in total with 5 different functions to it.

    My indon maid is totally hopeless when it comes to cooking so I guess her job is to look after my toddler girl whilst I care for the new born.

  3. #11
    Sage is offline Registered User
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    Jan 2007
    I paid $18K per month not inclusive of lai-sees (red packets, demanded by the pui-yuet). It's for 6 days a week and she demands double pay for Sundays and public holidays which comes up to $1,400 a day. She charges $15K for 8 hours of work a day so, I thought I might as well hire her for full-time, 6 days a week deal.

    Bad decision. Honestly, because it was my first baby, she had my husband and me running round in circles, pandering to her wishes while we were almost held hostage by her. I had depression as a result, which only lifted a couple of months after she left. We were all alone (no relatives in HK). But if I had to do it all over again, I'll just order food from terraform or similar or hire a cook. The pui-yuet quarreled with my helper and the atmosphere at home was unbearable. I have a new helper now (after several false starts) and everything is working out well. I agree with mothers who said that all you need is a good helper and someone who can cook those confinement dishes (or just order them).

    Having said that, I know that there are very good and wonderful pui-yuets out there. I was just unlucky to get one who made my confinement hellish. I am better informed now!

  4. #12
    Konradsmom is offline Registered User
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    Feb 2007
    I recruited my confinement lady from the Methodist Centre who arrange these contracts for these confinement ladies who are trained through govt funds. They are under a stricted code of conduct and therefore my experience is that they do not demand lai-see's or anything. they shopped for food for me, and had everything clearly accounted for each time they shop - receipts and all.

    My personal experience is that a confinement layd can assess your personal health situation and recommend the right foods at the right times - I have tonnes of books on confinement food but what they didn't tell you was when and why you can eat some of them and not others - there is a lot of wisdom in the recovery process, and I think this is where the confinement lady comes in. My helper also helped cook, but from the menu itself there was a lot of info lacking.

    the confiment lady cooked my lunch and dinner ( for my husband as well), and a snack time soup for me when I was breastfeeding, and so she was very busy all day long - I was there to see her running around and not a slack moment...

    I have to say that referrals are quite important though.

  5. #13
    Lebebe is offline Registered User
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    Jul 2006
    Hong Kong
    You should hire through Pui Yuet agencies. This way, if you are not pleased with her services, you can always ask for a replacement. I had one for my first, and she drove me nuts. Because nothing was really written in black and white, I was stuck with her for 2 months!!!

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    peainpod is offline Registered User
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    Aug 2007
    Mid Levels
    I agree with Konradsmom that referrals are most important. A good one will really make a difference in your postpartum recovery.

    I hired one on the recommendation of a coworker and my pui yuet is really wonderful. Even though I am breastfeeding, she has proved most helpful in so many different ways. She is an excellent cook and will not only prepare food for me and my husband but also for our helper - AND she doesn't mind teaching my helper how to cook as well. (They do get along well - partly b/c my helper is quite easygoing but she is also a very thoughtful and nice person.) She also helps me to do the daily bathing and to quiet down the baby to give me more time to rest between nursing periods.

    I'm happy to recommend her to others if anyone is looking for a good pui yuet. (She is pretty popular though so even though I tried to book her for my cousin who is expecting this October, she already signed with someone else.)

    Also my pui yuet came through the Women's Labour Org so she is not as expensive as the one Sage hired. I only hired her for 5 days per week (9 am to 4 pm) for around HK$8000 a month. Plus another HK$1300 a week to cover for the food shopping for the 5 days she comes to cook for us (lunch and dinner).

    She didn't ask for end-of-contract laisee money although she is so good we would like to give it to her - but we are not sure how much is a decent sum. Would HK$1000 be enough?

  7. #15
    Mrs.Yu is offline Registered User
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    Mar 2008
    Like many of you, I was very sceptical about the need for a pui-yuet before giving birth. I am quite a fussy eater and cannot stand food that is remotely "strange-tasting", so Chinese herbs are completely out of the question.

    However, my experience with my pui yuet is extremely positive, and she has completely changed my mind about the importance of pui yuets. She made sure I had time to rest in between feeds (I was breast-feeding though not exclusively) and cooked various nutritious soups for me during the first month. My health has improved significantly from my pre-natal days, and there's absolutely no regrets about hiring her, except that I think I put on quite a bit of weight from being fed so well.

    I had the pui yuet staying over for the first two weeks and then coming only during the day for 8 hours for the second two weeks. I thought that worked out very well as it allowed my helper to ease into looking after the baby. The pui yuet also helped train the helper (and me!) to look after the baby. I am sure without one, you can learn quickly how to change nappy or bath the baby, but with a pui yuet around, I felt assured that there was someone to fall-back on which is very important to me as a first-time mom.

    Having said all of this, I know many pui yuets nowadays are very inexperienced and can be very stubborn in their ways. I have heard countless horror stories about them, and I think I was just lucky to find a good one.

    If you are thinking of hiring one, be absolutely sure that she has a good reference preferably from someone you know and trust. Otherwise, they can be a real burden at what is already a very stressful time.

    Good luck with your search.

  8. #16
    sandytan is offline Registered User
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    May 2007
    Hong Kong
    Dear all,

    I am looking for a good full-time Confinement Lady, and I will be due in June 2009. I know it's short notice, but the first CL I booked fell ill and I have to now look for alternative. Please help. Would appreciate if you could PM me the details. Thank you.

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