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Signs of problems in the 2nd tri?

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    Signs of problems in the 2nd tri?

    I'm about 20 weeks in and this is my first pregnancy. Everything seems to have been going well so far... Had my last checkup a month ago. But of course being the paranoid person that I can be, I am already starting to think of all the things that could be going wrong or could go wrong. Or that I could be doing wrong. Like, did I exercise too hard this morning? Or, why haven't I felt any movement in a week?

    Anyway, my question is: I've read horrible stories of missed abortions and second trimester losses, many of which are not even detected until weeks after the fetus has stopped developing (via ultrasound). Does anyone know of any signs/symptoms of a second trimester loss? Often it is due to an "incompetent cervix" and there is not even any blood involved to indicate the loss. So I'm just wondering- outside of doing an ultrasound at the clinic, is there any way of knowing whether or not there is a "problem" with your precious little one, in the second tri?

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    Seriously if you are worried I would recommend going and seeing the doctor. It doesn't matter what anyone says on this forum, because if they give you a symptom, it sounds like you're so concerned that you'll end up convincing yourself you have that symptom.

    Go and see a medical professional and put your mind and rest. Worrying about things isn't going to help you or the baby, so go and get your worries dealt with by the people who know. As parents we worry alot about our kids even before they're born, but you need to get things into perspective if you're going to survive.

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    As a first time mother-to-be, I have to say that I do not appreciate your insensitive and curt tone. If you didn't have an answer to my question, you certainly didn't have to post. Of course I'll be asking my OB this during my next visit - I just wondered if anyone knew of any signs that they could volunteer in the meantime. That's the point of this whole forum, right? If we wanted answers from medical practitioners, we'd just ask them during our visits! I had thought this was a friendly open forum over which normal people can share knowledge or input - NOT a forum over which we can be bashed for innocent questions.

    Yes, I worry as I'm sure all new parents do. Responses like yours do nothing to alleviate whatever worry we already have.

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    Another thing - The reason I asked this question on the forum instead of running off to see my doctor is 1) because I am not THAT worried and 2) because I don't have the spare $1800 to spend on a visit+u/s. Having given advice and gotten such great advice before from folks on this forum, I thought I'd use it again. Secondly, I am not "so concerned, I'll end up convincing myself that I'll have that symptom" - but thank you for your harsh and hurtful judgement of me without knowing a thing about me.

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    It is normal to feel movement sporadically at 20 weeks, it will be several more weeks before you feel movement all the time. SEcond trimester losses are not common. Statistically it is unlikely to happen. But of course everyone wonders what if??????

    I have to agree with what jool said, when pregnant everyone will tend to worry, and as a first time parent you will worry even more once baby arrrives, with time you get used to it.

    I was suprised by the reaction. I didn't find anything offensive in what was said.

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    I second that. I didn't find anything she said offensive. Plus, second trimester losses are not that common.

    And can I just add something? A colleague told me (while I was pregnant) that if I thought it was normal to worry during the pregnancy...just wait until the baby is born!! Then you really start worrying...and it doesn't stop until they are adults!!! Fact of live...parents worry!

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    i didn't think that it was offensive either. she gives good advice. if you are very worried, then the best thing to do to set your mind at rest is to make an "extra" appointment.

    i made one at 15 weeks at a private dr, even though i was going exclusively public, simply because i couldn't wait to see what sex the baby was. so, i booked myself in for an extra ultrasound. this wasn't even my first baby, it was my second. the difference between the two pregnancies though was that during my first, i took part in a study at QMH. they gave me 6-
    4D ultrasounds and with my second i had to pay and so only got one.

    i also agree with celtic... the worries are ONLY BEGINNING with pregnancy, just wait to see what you have in store!

    good luck!

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    PS> if you are worried about movement of the baby, lie down and take a break. usually putting your feet up and relaxing wakes the baby from the slumber they enjoy when they are bouncing around during your own movement.

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