- 04-08-2008, 12:03 PM #17
hi sarah, i realise that my sample group is fairly small. but i do think that many babies are just fine figuring out how to feed.maybe i was just very lucky, after my first night of trying it just came very naturally to me. i do realise that many women do have terrible problems where bf is concerned. i also think that many are so scared of "doing it wrong"
that they get so stressed out they forget to follow their instincts.
- 04-08-2008, 01:35 PM #18Registered User
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- Mar 2006
- Sai Kung
Some women are lucky, and have babies that seem to know what to do no matter what.
Unfortunatley I did everything right, but still had a baby that couldn't figure it out.
It got to the point that he was practically starving and feeding with a cup or eye dropper still didn't encourage him to latch on.
I had a lactation consultant by my side for 6 weeks and it still didn't happen, once he was given that bottle, he never looked back.
You have to remember that babies in developing countries die within the first month because of breastfeeding problems, so it not just mum's who are worried about 'doing it wrong'.
- 04-08-2008, 02:43 PM #19Registered User
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- Feb 2003
- Hong Kong
If you are worried about Thrush there is an article in Close to the Heart, our newsletter for mothers in Asia, on our web site at http://www.lllhk.org/Publications.html
It is in the Early Year 2007 - Vol.8 No. 1 issue on page 10. (This is page 12 in the pdf file.) This article will explain the symptoms and the treatments.
SARAHLa Leche League Leader
- 04-08-2008, 02:50 PM #20Registered User
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- clearwater bay
It sounds like you are really really flustered and at your wits end... This sounds like an obvious idea, but have you considered having a professional lactation consultant come to your house to witness the way you are doing things and give you some face to face advice "on the scene"? You emails are long and tend to get confusing the more aggravated you are (plus it is difficult enough just explaining some of these issues to other people over text), and it seems like the most obvious way to give you assurance and to help your baby is to let invite a professional to your home to see what's going on in person and give you in-person advice, maybe help you with technique, etc.
LLL is fantastic at that kind of thing and I know the Annerley offers post-natal services where they can send lactation specialists to your home, no matter where you live in HK SAR. Of course it's at a cost, but it seems it would be one very worthwhile investment in so many ways.
Just a thought, but sorry to state the obvious if you're already done this or are doing it.
- 04-08-2008, 05:35 PM #21Registered User
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- Jun 2003
- Hong Kong
If you are thinking of having someone to visit you at home I recommend Yvonne Heavyside, 2530-1905, 9887-3235. She is not only a lactation consultant but also a health visitor and so gives general support for new mothers as well as breastfeeding support.
She will be able to give you advice on all aspects of child care. She is also a great help for mothers with postnatal depression. She is a mother as well which I always thinks helps.
- 04-08-2008, 07:00 PM #22
I second giving Yvonne a ring! She's out of HK in May though so you might want to call her soon
- 04-08-2008, 08:44 PM #23Registered User
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I went through the same thing as Matty did. Spent tons on lactation consultant, etc. etc. etc. I was very determined to breastfeed my bub because my husband has asthma and eczema. Anyway, to cut a long story short, my bub was 'diagnosed' as an inefficient nurser and if she were born in those days without formula, pumps or bottles, I would have lost her (I was told). Her weight dropped almost 15% from birth (even after putting her on the breast AND topping her up with expressed milk from the other breast) so much that the midwife and lactation consultant got really worried. I was very severely told off by her paed. (I didn't get to meet his deadline to get my baby back on track - she just kept losing weight). I cried and cried that day. Plus, it was really scary because she looked so much tinier and scrawnier than the time she was born.
Anyway, in the end, I had to express... and waited for her to finally learn how to latch on. It was really tough in the first three months and all I can say is, I didn't even have time for a proper bath let alone time to boot up the computer and post messages!
My point is, don't fret and worry about not having a life and the baby is being too dependent on you. If you choose to breastfeed, I'd say the first two months are dedicated totally to your baby. Things will get better once she develops her own routine. And if she doesn't, you can opt to pump the dream feed after a couple of months so that daddy can feed her with a bottle and spend some bonding time with her too. But before I get flamed for suggesting you introduce a bottle, please know that all I'm saying is - explore all your options. Don't despair and remember that you don't need to do everything by the book. TRUST, TRUST, TRUST your instinct. Your baby needs a happy and healthy mommy first. Everything else comes second.
- 04-08-2008, 09:52 PM #24
yes, i know i was lucky...
my sister-in-law had the same type of problems with her first. to the point that she didn't even want to try bf the second time round.
i apologise if i offended anyone by my remarks.
ps sage> i agree completely with everything you said.
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