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    then relax about it. it will all work itself out in the end. be prepared for some to look at you as if you are nuts, though. there's no need to give in to the peer pressure.

    at the age of two, what you should be looking for is somewhere to socialise your child. a place where your child can begin to learn how to share, take turns, listen to and take part in story time, a place that allows your child to learn how to use their imagination and where they can begin to show some creativity, a place that can help them develop their fine (finger/hand/eye co-ordination) motor skills and their gross (running/jumping/throwing) motor skills is FAR superior to somewhere the kids sit at desks and learn to read/write/recite (mathematics tables/nursery rhymes etc).

    a playgroup is the ideal place for this.

    for all of those who buy into the mentality that you MUST have the right pre-school, so you can get into the right kindie, so you can get into a good primary school & secondary school, so that your child will be guaranteed of acceptance into Harvard.... this is just not the case.

    if your child is competent in expressing him/herself, is able to listen and respond appropriately when spoken to, is able to use their imagination when answering questions, is able to use their initiative when solving a problem you should have NO TROUBLE passing ANY interview for primary or even secondary school.

    good luck! stay strong in your beliefs!

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    Quote Originally Posted by carang View Post
    at the age of two, what you should be looking for is somewhere to socialise your child. a place where your child can begin to learn how to share, take turns, listen to and take part in story time, a place that allows your child to learn how to use their imagination and where they can begin to show some creativity, a place that can help them develop their fine (finger/hand/eye co-ordination) motor skills and their gross (running/jumping/throwing) motor skills is FAR superior to somewhere the kids sit at desks and learn to read/write/recite (mathematics tables/nursery rhymes etc).
    a playgroup is the ideal place for this.

    for all of those who buy into the mentality that you MUST have the right pre-school, so you can get into the right kindie, so you can get into a good primary school & secondary school, so that your child will be guaranteed of acceptance into Harvard.... this is just not the case.
    I am going to agree with Cara here. I don't think going to school should be about trying to get into the best primary/kinder especially if the child isn't ready. But I do understand it from the local perspective though, many parents don't have a choice if you are going to use the local system. We don't have to and so we are fortunate enough to place him in a nursery that doesn't hothouse the kids in preparation for premier local schools here. Kids afterall are simply kids.

    JYap, I really can't put my finger down on what was the exact signs but my son was just ready. He was ready for something more independent and we didn't want to hold him back. I think it was his independence more than anything else that made us decide that he was ready for school.

    Mosmum, DON'T succumb to pressure! But having said that, like I mentioned, I do understand it if you are going to be using the local system and hoping to end up in the premier schools.

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    having taught here for 13 years+. i have had MANY students that have gotten into the "best" schools. i think it had more to do with the child's social skills and verbal abilities than which kindie they went to.

    we may have to succumb to thet local system ourselves. i still do not worry about "which" school my children will attend. (personally, i would rather we were back in canada for their schooling, but sadly, i don't think this will be possible.)

    i think a problem with the local system is that they all, parents, teachers, administrators pay significant lip-service to wanting the system to change, yet no one does anything to begin that change.

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    carang and spockey, thank you for your valuable inputs again!

    what i WILL do is: send her to K1 when she's 3.
    however, sending a 2-year-old to a playgroup on a day-by-day basis.. wow, my feeling already tells me this is wrong for us.
    i can bring her to one playgroup 'class' per week, and maybe one music class (whatever we come up with, then). and besides these adult-organised activities, let her have time to play with her peers.

    and i don't want to think about the next best thing, such as primary school, secondary, university, etc. she can continue according to her abilities and interests.

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    oh, one more thing: somebody asked me whether i was teaching her phonics yet. i said 'no' and that my child is DEVELOPMENTALLY (!) not ready for it yet.
    i know that this person teaches her son (18 months) the alphabet, the numbers and phonics on a daily basis in a systematic way. she's very much worried about his K1 interview which is coming up in september.
    i just wonder why there is no (governmental?) body that educates parents about such issues.
    why do parents need to worry basically as soon as their baby is born? and besides that, where are the parental instincts about these issues?

    anyway, this discussion could go on and on..
    SIGH!

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    I really believe that each child has his own UNIQUE developmental timetable, so one child might be ready for something that another child might not be. Just trust your instincts; you know your child best.

    Let's not judge other parents who choose to introduce early learning concepts to their children... who knows, maybe their children ARE ready (or they--the parents, --feel that their kids are ready). Regardless, it's their kid/s and they get to live with the consequences (good and bad). :)

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    I agree that it really depends on your child. My girl loves going to school and is in a good mood for the rest of the day. But the important thing about teaching children is the love and interaction we give to them through the learning, so it doesn't matter whether you are trying to teach them to walk, speak, draw, signing or phonics, as long as you do it in a way that the child feels happy rather than pressurised and stressed, it's ok to start at a very early age.

    There is a website www.brillbaby.com which has a forum for parents who discuss early childhood learning. It's a very interesting website and worth a look at.

    I agree 100% that teaching them should not be because we want them to go to this school or that school, although being chinese, I can totally understand why local parents are worried.

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    sorry, buckeroo, i'm going to have to disagree with you to a certain extent.

    it's the system that i judge to be so poor, not~ generally speaking~ the parents. it's too bad that the parents feel they MUST do this or their child's life will forever be ruined if they don't.

    i have had to explain to parents that it is not natural for children to be learning grammar (not kidding) when a child is 2.5 years old, at least not in the traditional sense. i have had parents adament that i needed to teach their child verb tenses when the child could barely speak! it is not the natural way to learn a language and breaking through some of this mentality of the parents can be EXTREMELY difficult!

    i do understand that every parent does what they believe is best for their child, it's just too bad that some are so misguided.

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