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    Paddles, don't be disheartened - it's really common that after 5 days or 1 week, it all slips back. The person I was getting advice from told me that exact thing and sure enough, on day 5 it was like it was the beginning! You should just keep on being totally consistent. After a few more days and my bub was back to falling asleep after 5 mins - after 2 weeks there was no crying at all.

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    We all have terrible mother days but I like to think that it is just life and no one is perfect and as long as your heart is in the right place, your kids will be fine : )

    Oh those sleepless nights!!!! I am such a DRAGON when I don't get enough sleep or when the day has been tough....We are on day 2 of babies going to bed at 630pm. I also put my 22mth old to bed at the same time and he doesn't seem to mind so I am grateful for that. Tonight hubby and I called the baby sitter again and went out for buffet with some friends and it was really really nice to be ourselves again and not in parent mode. Hang in there mommies, quiet nights are just around the corner!!!! 6mth old baby still cries but it's on and off (2mins here, 5mins there) for 20-30mins and not very loud, kind of like complaining so this is a huge improvement for us.

    for CIO in the same room. we did this when we traveled and the baby was in the same room as us. we used our pillows to kind of shield our faces and chatted to each other on our blackberries until the crying stopped. we would also use the camera function on the phone to see if he was asleep yet so neither of us had to move just in case he was not down yet. I found it better if he couldn't see our faces. We would just lay on the bed and wait it out.

    I did CIO at 9 or 10mth with my first son and we were sleeping in the same room at night because we were visiting my inlaws. if he woke up crying, i lay still and waited 20mins before getting up to put him back down. The shush pat thing did not work for us. haha you can read about that here when my elder son was 9mths:
    http://blog.milkmonsterlaughs.com/20...eep-dance.html

    i don't think 11mths is too late. CIO is about teaching your baby not to wake up for attention at night time. I don't think any age is too old but I think it gets harder the older to leave it. and the older they are, the more unbearable it is especially if they are calling you and crying - i don't think i could take that!!!

    i actually still co-sleep during the day for naps sometimes. i did the same with my older son. kids are really smart and they soon learn the difference between night and day and what is acceptable behaviour for each circumstance. in my situation, maybe that is why it took/takes longer for CIO to work for us because it can be confusing at first for the baby but I figured it was good for the kids and i to have those moments together than to cut them out completely...i stopped co-sleeping naps with my older son at 1yrs old. with the younger one, i don't have as many opportunities to nap but maybe once or twice a week we have a little snooze in the bed together.

    there will be relapses with CIO. If you travel, time changes, too exciting of an afternoon, over tiredness, illness. I mentioned before that my older son didn't stop crying before bedtime until 18 or 19mths. Now, at 22mths, there is NEVER any crying at bedtime unless it's dad who is putting him to bed and he is asking for mommy. (he is now at an age where he will decide who will do what for him. i.e. I will say, "time to take a poopoo" and he will say "dada poopoo" meaning he wants his dad to take him. If i then try to take him, he will protest and cry for whomever he asked for.

    The crying is really hard to take but as an experienced mother i now know that there will be lots of crying over the years and that is just part of having kids. before i didn't really get that. i thought my kids are only happy if there are no tears ever so the crying was really really hard on me. i often would cry too. now, it's still really hard to listen to and hubby and i fight the most when there is crying since it's stressful but I know that the crying is not hurting him in any way. this is just how life is sometimes, you have to just learn and the learning part is tough but you make it out a stronger person with another lesson learned. maybe too hardcore for a baby but it's just a general frame of mind I have since i am also dealing with an almost 2yr old:)

    hubby is leaving tomorrow for 7day!!! how i will manage to put the kids to bed at the same time is still in question!!! i'm scared!!!

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    wanfamily, if i were u i would just let the baby co-sleep till after u get back from your holiday....u have to teach him in any case so what he does now should not matter....how old is yr baby anyway? i did the co-sleeping bit for one or two nights .... this is of crse pre-CIO and it just did not work for me as my baby would cry anyway even if i tried to pat him and all so ultimately i would ahve to get up which was even more tiring since i would be really very groggy....atleast that few steps form my room to his would wake me up a wee bit.

    adahc, whether u co-sleep or not at present once the CIo starts it should be in his own room only....it would too difficult to be in the same room and not picking him up unless of crse u r on a holiday like Milk monster.....in fact on my holiday i do plan to sleep in the same room so let';s see..else i am just preparing myself to start all over again once i am back.

    and yes CIp does work for most nights but there r a few where something goes wrong and we r back to square one....but there r always exceptiosn in life...the point is u do not forget or let him the rule....

    i guess my baby also understand the diff in daytime and nighttime....daytime i rock him to sleep and never let him when he wakes up ina short time....night time after rocking him to sleep i let him CIO.

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    the other option when traveling is to hide out in the washroom. Now that we have 2 kids, we always try to find hotels that have a separate bedroom so our older son can sleep without the little baby crying and waking him up.

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    i've been trying to get my 8month old to sleep without being nursed for the past 3 days. I've managed so far but now my daughter is refusing to eat her solids. She's either teething or has a cold. So, if she wakes up in the night, it could be because she is hungry. In which case, what do I do? Ignore the fact that she's possible hungry or feed her and encourage the return of bad habits?

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    i think when they are sick it's hard to do CIO...personally, I wouldn't let a sick baby cry at night, especially if they are not eating well during the day...sorry i guess in this case, you would go back to old habits and then start again with CIO after she is better. My younger son is sick too at the moment (what is this bug that's going around?! it's so bad!! fever, cough, runny nose!!) poor kid is not eating well at all, refuses solids (he's 7mths) and is only taking formula, but much less that he has before. i am now feeding him to sleep bc i am so worried he's not eating enough and if he wakes up at 5 or 6am i wake up to feed him. will go back to CIO once he is feeling better...take care! hope your daughter recovers soon! it's so tough when they're sick...

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    Thanks milkmonster.

    I'm really struggling with this whole cio situ anyway, and my daughter has become clingy during the day which makes me wonder if me doing the cio this has made her feel insecure or if it's because she seems to be unwell. She's just not a happy bunny at the mo.

    Hope your son feels better soon!

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    putput...just hold on CIO for a week i would say....see if it gets her smiles back....if not then its not CIO so atleast that would assure u.... u can get her checked physically by the doc and let him know that u r planning to do CIO so u need to be sure that all is well with her. u would be surprised how much HK docs support u on CIO.....i am a successful CIO mom too and if u read my earlier posts it wasn;t as bad as i had expected.....but nowadays once in while he does cry at night and depending on the cry which i ahve figured out by now i go and attend to him....so all the best!! and let us know if u need any advice.


    BTW ladies i am off on a 3-week holiday to India and may not check my emails / internet so regularly hence wishing u all "Merry Christmas and Very Happy New Year!!"..... i am planning to do as much CIO as possible during this holiday and then start all all over again if need be when i get back, bye.

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