Vent! vent! Bad experience at Playtown
- 05-30-2009, 01:20 PM #9Registered User
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w2bmom,
from what i read, i donnt think you were 'bullied'. i mean, i think you did a great job, assessing the situation and asking the helper.but like all things in this world, we just cannot control everything including how others would react. you have asked politely and it is not your duty to educate the helper how she should react or what kind of moral she is implying to her employer's kid.. but you did a great job, to your own kid.. that's enough. it is not a fair and friendly world out there and much as we the parents try to teach our own kids to be a valuable member to the society, not everyone thinks the same way.. it's unfortunate / fortunate that this happen in a playgroup.. but it is not a fairy land out there and your son will understand that.. the good moral you are teaching him.. and when others reacting nastily,, sometimes we tolerate , sometimes we just walk away .. and sometimes, we do something about it.
it's a part of life lesson..
no, your kid cannot have his favourite toy, despite you waiting patiently and asking for it politely, because you met a very inconsiderate and rude helper.. but life is not fair, you may not be ready for your son to see but how you react to this helper is also very important.. if it is not under your circle of influence then, do something that is within your influence. take it easy, mummies are not God.. we cannot give them everything..
- 05-30-2009, 04:51 PM #10Banned
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it is a very common occurence in HK where kids hog up on one toy and u cannot play with it. We had this sort of exprience very often. We generally always make our son that he should share his toys after playing with it for sometime. But we have heard so many times not only helpers but even parents who tell u that they are just kids 1-3 years old who dont understand the concept of sharing. I dont believe that as a parent we should make our kids understand sharing.
- 05-30-2009, 05:30 PM #11Registered User
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Totally agree with you. That's why I kept my cool, did what I shd do, walked away from her and vent my frustration on this forum. I didn't educate her. Just questioned her reaction. It was not worth my time anyway to pursue the matter further and at the end of the day she shd be ashamed of herself for her behaviour.
- 05-30-2009, 05:39 PM #12Registered User
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My previous post was in reply to reei's post.
As for Neha, we all have our own ways of disciplining or educating our kids and I certainly did not insist it on that kid. What bothers me was the rude woman and her rude reaction to my request. If she was nice and at least tried, but the kid still wouldn't budge, I couldn't possibly kick him out could I?
- 05-30-2009, 06:05 PM #13Registered User
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w2bmom,
rent a nice funny dvd to watch and laugh out loud. don't let someone so insignificant bother you. she is just not worth your time thinking about..
i heard the night at museum.. sth museum 2 is good..
hehe
- 05-30-2009, 06:15 PM #14Registered User
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yeah I think you're justing asking for a world of hurt really...lol...you can't control how other parents/helpers react/act, you can only choose how you will then react...learn how to blow off rude people and have a bitch about it later :-)
- 05-30-2009, 06:28 PM #15Registered User
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Thanks ladies!
Night at the museum... hmmm.... good idea!
And yes .. I like it! Blow off the rude and bitch about it later (in Geobaby?)! It sounds so good already lol! And I do believe in karma ... u wouldn't wanna know what I'm imagining now hahaha!
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