- 07-01-2009, 11:29 PM #17Registered User
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I see a big difference between having a home birth with a qualified midwife and having an unassisted home birth all by yourself. If everything goes normally well then, yes there won't be a problem, but if something goes wrong, how will you know, and will you be a position to do anything about it, if you do somehow pick up that something is wrong.
edited to add,
I wouldn't have a home birth myself because where I live I would have to pay for that, and there is the option to have hospital delivery with a midwife with a birthing tub and it is free, but if that wasn't available I may consider a home birth with a miidwife.
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- 07-01-2009, 11:44 PM #18
- 07-02-2009, 08:31 AM #19Registered User
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I also think people who go through unassisted births have weighed their options. We spend all of our lives filling our bodies with drugs to make them do what they are supposed to be doing, instead of actually listening to what our body is telling us. I think unassisted births makes us re-examine ourselves.
- 07-02-2009, 09:46 AM #20Registered User
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prone to wander, i think in an ideal situation where the mom is really connected to her own body (which is difficult to achieve with all the stress of today's world), and where we have experience watching other woman give birth like how ppl used to live - in villages where everyone is everyone's family, closely connected; and if we don't have babies well into our 30s, then we can have unassisted homebirths. our bodies are supposed to start having babies & giving birth when we are young, maybe 18 or 20. then giving birth to a baby is like going to the bathroom & our body recover so much quicker. but nowadays, we mess up our system with birthcontrol pills, hormones, late marriages, late pregnancy, it's difficult for a lot of us to have unassisted pregnancy, let alone unassisted birth.
i consider myself an alternative parent, i'm into natural medicines, natural birth & Waldorf education. i've had 2 babies, both times i practiced hypnobirthing but ended up having an epidural, 1st time baby was in the wrong position. 2nd time, baby was just too large for me (as asian, the midwives & doctor tell me, it is impossible to have drug free birth giving birth to a near 9lb baby without risking my life). i was lucky to have had a vaginal birth. going through these 2 experience let me to believe that sometimes life take us where we least wish to.
if you do decide & get your unassisted home birth, I wish you all the luck! i think it would be much easier if you are caucasian, and younger than 25.
- 07-02-2009, 10:23 AM #21Registered User
But don't we instinctively know when something is wrong? I'm not sure I'm gutsy enough to do an unassisted birth but I think it is an interesting question to ask how well we know ourselves and know our bodies. I think we are so scared to trust ourselves in case something "goes wrong". Things can "go wrong" in hospital too
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You may know something is wrong is you've had a baby before and the pain is much worse than your "normal", or if it is taking way to long because baby won't descend, but if you have no experience with birth, how will you know what "normal" looks like. No doubt there are situation when you may not realize womething is wrong until it is too late, say a placental abruption, serious risk of a serious lack of oxygen for baby and severe hemorraghe for mom. you can read all the books you want, when you are in that emotionally charged and pain charged state, you cannot recall all the various signs of things going wrong. Even in a traditional society, you would not labor alone, you would be with women who had given birth before, probably more than one, and they would supprt you and help you.
I also agree with the previous poster that most people are very out of turn with their bodies.
Yes things do go wrong in a hospital, but if things went very bad and you needed an emergency c/s, it can be done. Of course with hospital births you also run the risk of having interventions and c/s that you probably didn't need, if you had been left to labor naturally, (which is probably what you are looking for when thinking of home birth) Look at the appalling c/s rate in north america. It is up to 31% in my community. I totally agree that taking the medical view of looking for anything to go wrong and only saying it is normal if you can't find anything, vs, looking that it is normal, unitl something goes wrong is the way it is in hospitals and can totally see why people may wish for a home birth, but for me the risk of being alone without anyone with expereince of births in an unassissted birth is too risky for me. I think at the very minimum with home births you should have 1 experienced midwife. I pretty sure most midwives have at least 2 professionals at a birth.
- 07-02-2009, 10:23 AM #22Registered User
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Anyway, it is interesting to see the various opinions out there.
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- 07-02-2009, 08:54 PM #23Registered User
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i had a homebirth in the UK with my first child. I felt very in tune with my body during the whole process and it was a wonderful experience. having said that i am sure i felt more at ease knowing that my midwife was there should anything unexpected occur. unfortunately there are a number of things can happen during labour and delivery - whether we are in tune with our bodies or not (although I do believe that these complications are greatly reduced with drug-free births)
She basically left me alone in my bedroom (as requested) and checked on me occasionally until i felt the strong urge to push and she remained with me during that stage - although didn't do a great deal.
It was comforting to know that she had done this soo many times before, she notified the nearby hospital that i was labouring and delivering at home. she had a direct line to the ambulance service. Her greatest concern was actually the delivery of the placenta, not the baby, due to the risks involved.
I was disappointed to find that i couldn't have a well-supported home birth here in HK with my second child. When i looked into it, it basically boiled down to the fact that yes of course you could fly a midwife in and go ahead with a homebirth but it would be without the additional acceptance and support of the hospital and ambulance system. It wasn't a risk i was prepared to take just so i could be at home!
I ended up at the Matilda for my second sons birth and to be honest in terms of labouring it wasn't that different from being at home!
The ob was there for all of 5mins and i had a doula with me for support for the remainder of the time. However this time the cord was wound tightly around the little ones neck and I felt i was definitely in the right place.
so yes, i'm all for homebirths given the right support network but just not sure why you would choose to be unassisted
Different strokes for different folks but I can't imagine taking that kind of risk when it is the life of mother and child at stake. So what if you do know your body and instinctively know that something is wrong - its what you would do next that i question?
- 07-02-2009, 09:18 PM #24Registered User
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I think it's a good and important and vulnerable time. My university professor who is one of the most accomplished and amazing women I've ever met (a double phD who had her first child at 40 and then ran the California State Marathon 6 months later and won) and she was talking to me a few months before I gave birth and she said something like, "Well, it is probably such a huge time of preparation for you. Preparing mentally and spiritually, especially."
I was so struck by that--because rarely does anyone mention the spiritual side of childbirth. And there is one--a big one! So much of what you decide to do as far as childbirth goes beyond just the physical to the emotional, mental and spiritual side.
Also, when I gave birth at the hospital, right after my son came out, the midwife turned to us and asked, "Does someone want to say a prayer or special blessing or a song?" We didn't at that time--but basically because we had never even thought about it.
In so many cultures, when a baby is born the people around recognize the significance of the moment with some special ritual. In Western culture, I think we know so much scientifically that we think we don't need to really focus on other aspects as much--but they might be just as important.
So, I think by even taking time to really meditate and contemplate these other parts that aren't focused on so much women may open up the door for women to experience an even more amazing and intimate birth experience that they had never even thought about. Just a thought.
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