Forums  •  Classifieds  •  Events  •  Directory

 
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Bored beyond imagination...

  1. #1
    jada511 is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Location
    Lantau
    Posts
    32

    Bored beyond imagination...

    Just looking for some advice...I've been in Hong Kong with my hubby 2 years now and have not found a job. I guess I have been very picky, I only want part time and I really don't want to teach English as I don't think I would be a good teacher at all. I am so extremely bored in HK still and have not met a lot of people after 2 years and now I'm getting really really desperate. Now being 24 weeks pregnant, I'm wondering if I should just hold off now or keep pursuing (I don't want to work when baby come for at least 8 months). Has anyone been in this situation and if so, what did you do...? ANY advice would be so helpful, thanks :)

  2. #2
    elle is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    May 2010
    Location
    hk south side
    Posts
    386
    If you don't need the job for financial reasons and are more looking for a social outlet/ way to meet people and relieve boredom why don't you try to find a part time volunteer position instead? There are literally hundreds of organizations in many fields in HK that can use part-time help. You can also join something like the American Women's Association (no need to be American) to meet ladies of many nationalities. They have pregnancy groups along with many other social functions.

  3. #3
    thanka2 is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Location
    HK
    Posts
    1,623
    If you've got time on your hands because you're not employed, why not join a due-date club here on Geobaby if you haven't already? I've heard several women say that they made some strong lasting friendships through their due date club.

    Having said that, depending on your personality, it can be difficult to connect with people in Hong Kong. I've been here off and on for over eight years and have been her continuously for the past four. I work full-time and in the past have worked part-time in two different fields. I am married to a local man and connected to his family here. I have a 3-year-old son and am pregnant with my second child. And still, I find that I don't have any really close friendships with anyone in this city. There are a lot of interferences including the really busy schedules of most people in the city as well as economic barriers (it's often hard to associate with people who are living in an entirely different financial bracket than you are) as well as just cultural barriers. Having said that, I have a ton of acquaintances here and even some I would consider friends but no one extremely close. It's much harder to get close with people here than where I'm from. So, don't feel alone if you're having the same problems. It can be really difficult.
    “Many women have described their experiences of childbirth as being associated with a
    spiritual uplifting, the power of which they have never previously been aware …
    To such a woman childbirth is a monument of joy within her memory.
    She turns to it in thought to seek again an ecstasy which passed too soon.”

    ~ Grantly Dick-Read (Childbirth Without Fear)

    Mother of Two
    JMW, boy, born November 29, 2007, 9:43 pm, USA
    MJW, girl, born March 17, 2011, 4:14 pm, HK

  4. #4
    carang's Avatar
    carang is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    Sep 2004
    Location
    Sai Kung
    Posts
    6,259
    i've been here for almost 16 years and although i've met so many people, and made some very close friendships...they are VERY difficult to maintain. hk is such a transient city (for expats) that just when i think i've made a great friend, they up and leave! (i mean, how dare they?!?!?! LOL). it has happened at least 4-5 times over my time here and it really gets exhausting finding the time to be able to meet new people and pursue the friendship. that mixed with thanka's observation about mixing with different financial brackets...extremely difficult when you are on the lower scale, moreso than when you are in the top bracket. i still have friends from all tax brackets; from people who work for their church (friends from church have given them a good deal on rent) to someone who is a house-husband (wife's work provides $70K+/month for housing....)

    it can be frustrating, exhausting etc...but if you have time on your hands, then i'd say make the most of it! forget working...being pregnant already plus your VERY extended mat-leave requirements would make it virtually impossible...use your time to get out and about... join clubs, take classes, take up pregnancy yoga, children's first aid (preparing for your new arrival)...whatever your heart desires... you just may meet some very interesting people along the way.

  5. #5
    lesliefu is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    South District
    Posts
    1,055
    i met one of my good friends at a class i took my toddler too - so anything is possible. you can still do things at 24wks...just not gym class and stuff, but perhaps music class with your toddler? as a local, i can see why it might be hard to find friends (not just acquiantances) as everyone is so wrapped up in planning activities for their kids and such, but there IS a group out there.

  6. #6
    carang's Avatar
    carang is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    Sep 2004
    Location
    Sai Kung
    Posts
    6,259
    leslie, you misunderstood... she's 24 weeks pregnant... she doesn't have a 24 week old baby...

  7. #7
    moomoo is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Hong Kong
    Posts
    28
    hiya..
    I had been in the same exact situation. In fact, 2 times round..
    I know exactly how you feel. If you had been a career minded person just as I was...not holding down a job...sticking a hand out for $ from hubby..waiting around for 'unrealised' plans...can be very unsettling and ego-defeating. Its like..there's always something stirring in your head..telling you that you need to get things moving. but i guess, things don't get moving just because you want them to, just like the case of trying to conceive or finding that right job. I couldn't quite find the right job too and it did take us a while to conceive. Life was really just dreadfully ding-donging away then and i was going through bouts of doubting my selfworth.
    Things started to look up after I got pregnant and whilst i was still very tempted to and wanted so badly to hold a job, i gave that up since we had no family support here nor a helper...I had to be a full-time mother. Preparing for the baby's arrival can keep you very busy and in the process, acquaint you with fellow mothers-to-be. NOt to mention that once the baby arrives..you will be even more deprived of time and rest...so, no..you won't hv time to think about the job then.
    having said that, my baby is now 1...and these last weeks....thoughts are stirring in my head again. i know i can't go out to work until he starts school...but i'm really just itching to get out there and earn my own keep again. but then, there's the issue of having a second one...and here we go again...
    i hope i hvn't made you more confused about things. I would agree that you should now just focus all your attention on getting all ready for baby and also, joining some mum-to-be groups, antenatal yoga classes etc and getting to know some friends. Good luck!

  8. #8
    Shenzhennifer is offline Registered User
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Location
    Tsuen Wan
    Posts
    1,288
    I was in your situation somewhat before. I was living in Shenzhen, pregnant, with absolutely nothing to do, and few even casual friends who already had kids and were busy in their lives. It kinda sucked. I yearned to be in HK so I could meet others in similar stages of pregnancy, but mostly so i could take courses, like pre-natal class, yoga, first aid, go to LLL meeting, etc.
    I wouldn't bother with the job idea for now. At 24 weeks, you're not exactly a desirable candidate anyways, hehe(I was also in that position before). You've got roughly four months to prepare for your baby and there is lots you can do before you are too pregnant to want to do anything. And once the baby is born, you'll pretty much be busy ever after. I'm now nearly giving birth to my second after nearly 2 years here, and have no idea how I'm going to sustain the few close friendships ive got here, much less eat:)

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. 28 weeks pregnant and very bored...
    By Jenny-34 in forum Hong Kong Pregnancy Forum
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 09-24-2010, 05:44 PM
  2. Bored 2 year old Sai Kung District!!!
    By j12tse in forum Parenting - Toddlers and Preschoolers
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 07-10-2009, 02:39 PM
  3. bored 35 weeks pregnant woman in Mid Levels !!!
    By carolina78 in forum Hong Kong Pregnancy Forum
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 03-04-2009, 04:06 PM
Scroll to top