- 03-24-2011, 09:15 AM #25
yes, see, i had no choice but to go the route that i did. with extremely high blood pressure and the onset of pre-eclampsia, vaginal birth was not an option the first time round.... it also caused problems the second time round.
as for pain? my epidural didn't "take" during my first c-section and i could feel everything.... so, i, too experienced the pain... just a different kind.
- 03-24-2011, 09:39 AM #26Registered User
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Congratulations, Thanka, on the birth of your baby daughter. Well done on being so strong.
I have had three wonderful birth experiences, all natural delivery, intervention-free. The first, in Singapore, was led by a doula. She helped me at home (boy, that counter-pressure is FANTASTIC!). I used a TENS machine - also FANTASTIC. I arrived at the hospital 8cm dilated (after 4 hrs labour at home), reached 10cm about 10 minutes after arriving, and then spent 2 exhausting hours pushing. My doctor was totally hands off, let my doula and husband coach and support me, let me try a birthing stool, and eventually I gave birth kneeling backwards on the bed.
Babies 2 and 3 were born at the Matilda. The midwife was a little concerned I didn't want medication as I crawled on my hands and knees round the floor of the delivery room during labour number 2. My birth plan even said "Don't offer me medication. I'll scream for it if I want it!" I laboured at home for 2.5 hours, went to the hospital sure I was 8cm dilated (as the pain was so strong) and was told I was not even 1cm dilated! In the next hour I went from 0 to 10cm. Ouch! that hurt!!! (hence the crawling on the floor!). The midwife couldn't take it in the end and asked me if I wanted some pain relief. I caved and agreed to gas and air. They took that away from me when i started pushing as it was making me doolally! ;-) My doctor - Dr Ghosh - was fabulous. He was there for the pushing part, kept patting my leg, telling me not to scream and to focus that energy on pushing (he's right, it helps!). He let me deliver kneeling backwards on the bed. Baby was born after 4hrs 20 mins of labour.
I was expecting number 3 to be a 2 hr labour, start to finish - but the little monkey kept me wandering the corridors of the Matilda for 7 hrs as I wasn't dilating. The midwives just left me too it as they remembered me from last time! ;-) Eventually, I asked for an enema as I wanted the baby born in time for my husband to go home and bath our two big boys and put them to bed. Sure enough, that worked!! Husband had popped out, midwives were leaving me alone, I nearly gave birth alone on the toilet in the labour room. Luckily, husband arrived back just in time, yelled for the midwife, who yelled for Dr Ghosh (who was in the other labour room). It took another 20 minutes for the baby to crown and again, gas and air were my friend. Not so much the pain relief (it gave none), but it gave me something to bite on!!!
Anyway, I loved reading your story. Very empowering. I too trust my body. When I was having difficulty pushing out child number 1, I listened to the birth CD I was playing. A line about "giving birth like millions of women have done before you" convinced me that I was able to do it, and that's when I pushed for real.
Best of luck to anyone else approaching birth. It's the experience of a lifetime.
- 03-24-2011, 05:13 PM #27Registered User
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I am so amazed by what you have done, bravo! So may I know all in all how much did you pay for the hospital bill? Is it at Pamela Youda? The visiting hours at F8 is really what I have been trying to look for. Do you think I can still get a booking there with your doctor at week 36 now? Appreciate if you could pass me the contact number of your doctor. Thank you so much!
- 03-24-2011, 05:26 PM #28
it's a public hospital. you do NOT get to choose the doctor, nor do you "book" a bed... you register with them (if you are living in their catchment area) and then you show up when you are in labour. you are not guaranteed to even have met the doctor who delivers your baby. you get the doctor who is working that day.
- 03-24-2011, 05:27 PM #29
ps> as a public hospital, they WILL NOT turn anyone away.... you just may not get the F8 ward, if it is already full.
also, thanka noted that she paid $7200 for the entire stay and delivery.
- 03-24-2011, 05:48 PM #30Registered User
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Thanks carang, I missed out that part where thanka noted she paid HKD7200 all in all. Am I right to say that I must be able to provide a bill or something with my name on it to prove that I am living in their catchment area? Else i won't be able to register with them? Actually I have also registered with Princess Margaret Hospital, but they said if happen that day have emergency operation or too many mommy in labour, husband will not be allowed to accompany their wife, they seems like going to keep husband away if possible. I desperately need my husband to be by my side to support me. I assumed Pamela Youde are more encouraging husband to accompany throughout the whole process?!
- 03-24-2011, 05:56 PM #31
they are both public hospitals and basically all public hospitals follow the hospital authority guidelines. husbands are generally allowed to accompany their wife. they ALWAYS tell you the "worst case scenario" as they cannot guarantee anythin
- 03-24-2011, 10:32 PM #32Registered User
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May I ask you a question about the laboring room? The one I saw at Baptist was so cramped. Each berth, separated by a curtain, was barely wide enough for a single bed and the TONS of equipment inside. The passageway was extremely narrow and right outside was a corridor filled with mainland men sitting around with giant suitcases.
My question is -- how can anyone move around in that space? All the things you described -- putting your hands on the wall, having your husband support you from behind -- they would have been impossible in the area I saw.
Any guidance is appreciated. And congrats again!
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