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Should I say something?

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    smglobal is offline Registered User
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    Should I say something?

    Noticed my toddler child doing something silly in the bathtub tonight and asked what game she was playing. Our helper was in the bathroom too and said my child was copying her classmate, as in the morning the classmate's helper showed a group of helpers and kids a video from her mobile phone of the classmate taking a bath. Classmate is just over 2 and a girl.

    I thought it was kind of weird that a helper would film the kid taking a bath...and then to show it around to everyone. Just seems more of a private and personal moment. Anyway, I know the mother as our kids share a bus and thought about telling her, but it also seems like none of my business. Truth is I'm not really worked up about it, but then again, I would appreciate knowing that my helper was going around showing a video of my kid taking a bath, so that I could ask her not to take videos like that and esp not to show them around in the future.

    Have seen other threads on similar topics, talking about just photos of the kids. I am totally not bothered by stuff like that and also not bothered with people putting up pics of my kids on FB. I just think a video of bath-taking is more private. Anyway, am newish to HK and having helpers and what's normal here so thought I'd get a sense-check before saying anything.

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    Honkyblues is offline Registered User
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    The mother of the child in the bath deserves to know that her helper is taking inappropriate footage of her child and showing it off in public - albeit innocently, I'm sure.

    The helper in question needs to be given boundaries of what is appropriate and not appropriate with regard to taking photos and videos.

    Definitely say something to the mother.

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    Newbie_hk is offline Registered User
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    Mention it but leave any judgement out. For all you know, the helper may have taken cues from her employer & the mum may be taking videos too. I personally know of a mum who took photos of her daughter while sitting on the toilet then posted it on Facebook. It really depends on the parents boundaries. Some would not mind, some would go ballistic.

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    charade is offline Registered User
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    Because some employers would probably react very badly (especially if they perceive that other mums disapprove) and also that the helper had most likely done it thoughtlessly, I'd probably just explain to your own helper why it might not be the best thing to do and to tell her friend that you said that. That should make the helper who took the videos think about whether her employer might like it or not and behave accordingly.
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