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TTC with no sucess. Highly depressed. Need suggestion on doctors

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    prag is offline Registered User
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    Thank you Gracey for your reply..
    I am 27 year old. I once charted my temp around 1 year ago...found that I ovulated..but opk test never showed positive..we had ic just twice or may be thrice the whole month (concentrated only during the ovulation week )
    I have hypothyroidism .. M on thyroxine 50 mcg.. my Tsh , t3 & t4 are normal now.
    Quote Originally Posted by Gracey View Post
    It depends on your situation.
    If you're over 30 and making an effort -- doing your homework, tracking ovuluation, doing time intercourse, etc -- and still nothing is happening, you should go for a checkup. If there is a medical problem, you will want to know now before your fertility levels drop.
    If you're 20 and not really trying -- maybe it's just taking time.

    As for doctors -- some are more honest than others. I found a certain well-known Central doctor quite pushy with expensive treatments we didn't need, but who did get us pregnant. So it's hard to say. (The extra expensive treatments were actually after I got preggers, so I switched doctors)

    But I think the main thing is you. If you're well-read on the subject, and quite confident and firm about your needs, then you will less likely be bullied. If you go in like an airhead or say (as one idiot friend did) "Oh, we'll pay ANYTHING to get pregnant. You just make all the decisions for me!" Yeah, then a less scupulous doctor might take advantage.

    It would help on this forum if you gave us some details, like your age, medical condition, etc.

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    Hi prag, some women don't have any luck with opk kits, they are handy but the important thing is the temperature shift.

    But I wanted to say 2/3 times a month isn't very often if you're ttc, it would be a good idea to try more frequently. Also, are you making sure you have intercourse *before* you ovulate? By the time your temp shows you have ovulated it will be too late.
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    If you only tracked your temperature once, and you only try 2-3 times a month, that's no very much. I don't mean that as a criticism -- just that you probably can't conclude that it's not working just based on that.
    None of us here are doctors - if you have a condition like hypothyroidism, only a specialist can tell you if it's affecting your fertility.
    As for pushy doctors -- they'll only push if you let them. Go in educated and confident, and ask for a fertility check-up. They'll do some blood work and a scan for you, and a semen test for your husband / partner. It's not super expensive, but will tell you if you have a genuine medical condition, or just some bad luck.
    And if some unscrupulous doctor tries to push something you don't want, just say no. Most doctors here are fine, though.
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    Thanks Aquarian...
    What u saying is true I guess... That's not enuff.. :))
    Quote Originally Posted by Aquarian View Post
    Hi prag, some women don't have any luck with opk kits, they are handy but the important thing is the temperature shift.

    But I wanted to say 2/3 times a month isn't very often if you're ttc, it would be a good idea to try more frequently. Also, are you making sure you have intercourse *before* you ovulate? By the time your temp shows you have ovulated it will be too late.

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    Gracey...
    As per you are saying I think I will temp and try for a few more months now.. May be 2-3 months.
    If no luck...then will go for the tests.
    Thanks so much.
    Quote Originally Posted by Gracey View Post
    If you only tracked your temperature once, and you only try 2-3 times a month, that's no very much. I don't mean that as a criticism -- just that you probably can't conclude that it's not working just based on that.
    None of us here are doctors - if you have a condition like hypothyroidism, only a specialist can tell you if it's affecting your fertility.
    As for pushy doctors -- they'll only push if you let them. Go in educated and confident, and ask for a fertility check-up. They'll do some blood work and a scan for you, and a semen test for your husband / partner. It's not super expensive, but will tell you if you have a genuine medical condition, or just some bad luck.
    And if some unscrupulous doctor tries to push something you don't want, just say no. Most doctors here are fine, though.

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    The usual advice is to go for testing after a year of trying if you're under 35. As you're only been having ic 2/3 times per month and you don't know when you were ovulating, you could very easily have just missed the egg each month. I would recommend waiting at least 6 months, if not a year, before paying for tests. But temping and tracking cervical fluid will help you time things better in the future.

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    Aquarian, as per your suggestion I got the book : tcoyf . To my amazement , this book is so damn informative . Looks like getting pregnant is so easy ..
    Quote Originally Posted by Aquarian View Post
    The usual advice is to go for testing after a year of trying if you're under 35. As you're only been having ic 2/3 times per month and you don't know when you were ovulating, you could very easily have just missed the egg each month. I would recommend waiting at least 6 months, if not a year, before paying for tests. But temping and tracking cervical fluid will help you time things better in the future.

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    Lol! I wish it was always easy but sadly that's not the case for everyone.

    I'm glad you like the book and I hope it helps. I agree it's very informative, girls should be taught this stuff in school!

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