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    Helper is pregnant - how can we support her?

    Our helper has just recently announced that she is pregnant. She has been with us for 4 years and has really been great, so we have decided to support her if she decides to have the baby (she has told me she is undecided and considering an abortion). If she does decide to have the baby, weare willing to have her back after she gives birth, provided the baby stays in her home country with her family. However we are afraid that this can become a very tricky situation, both for her and for us, because the father denies been the father and will not acknowledge the child, let alone offer his support (financial or otherwise. He is an expat living in Hong Kong).

    If she decides to have the baby, we are willing to support our maid through this process (to an extent) as she has become part of the family, but we also want to advise her of what is the best option for her. If she does finally have the baby, there are a few points that we would need to understand, so we can also decide in which ways we are willing (or not willing) to help her. We would appreciate if someone could enlighten us and clarify the following matters:

    1. Giving birth. She says she still has not decided whether she wants to give birth here in HK, or go back to her country to do so. if she decides to go back, we would need to give her an extra leave time and this would be unconvenient for us. Is it in her best interest to have the baby in HK or in her country? will the baby be considered a permanent resident / HK national if she gives birth here?

    2. Obtaining support from the father. If wors comes to worst and the father refuses to acknowledge the child and support her, what are her options to force him to support the baby? I understand that in Hong Kong she can get the court to issue and order to the father to take a DNA test, and provided that the results are positive, to force him to pay child support. Does this also apply to her as she is not a premanent resident? What are the chances of this claim succeding and her getting the support she deserves? does it make a difference if the baby is born in Hong Kong or in her home country for this? and finally, can anyone recommend a lawyer that is willing to help and perhaps offer their services for free?

    3. As her employer, what should we be wary about? what would you do in our place? as I said we want to support her, but we would like to understand what would this mean for us. Has anyone had a similar issue and had the helper come back after the pregnancy and continued working?

    Thank you very much for your replies.


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    Hi Ella,

    Another family had a similar situation with their helper. She also got pregnant by an Expat who claimed he was sterile and denied the child was his.

    They did fight him in court and took a few months. The baby was born in HK and both mum/baby were here. The employer supported her and it was hard as they had young kids as well. Remember it was a difficult situation for all.

    Children born to domestic helpers are not granted permanent residence. However, if the father is a permanent residence then the child should get it too.

    Founded GeoBaby in 2002

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    Another update:

    The helper had a lawyer and they pushed for a DNA test. Paternity was confirmed and the father had to pay support.
    The helper/baby have returned to the Philippines.

    Founded GeoBaby in 2002

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