Eating Peanuts during Pregancy - the concerned daddy
- 08-25-2008, 04:20 PM #17Registered User
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Wow, you really like to make life hard for yourself..
Simply find out from a medial professional specialising in allergies IF peanuts are an issue in your wife's specific situation.
As many have said in the above threads, there are a huge number of cultural and nation specific 'must not' eat foods, some based on medical evidence and others simply on tradition.
In most cases where there is a degree of known risk (let's say blue cheese and listeria) most women make a judgement call based on the medical evidence. You don't have a 'known' risk - just a possible or perceived risk that could effect some people, nor do you have investigation into your wife's existing allergies. 'Smoking, drinking and chomping on blue cheese' are well documented, medically proven risks that pertain to everyone who is pregnant so your reference is not logical.
Internet research is all well and good, but not a replacement for a medical degree - especially in sensitive situations such as this -e.g. involving the woman you love going through one of the most highly charged, hormonal, emotional, physically and mentally demanding phases in her life.
Frankly, you are entitled to ask questions and be concerned for your unborn child, but if my husband posted something similar to this I would be horrified.
- 08-25-2008, 04:36 PM #18
If MY husband posted something like this, I would probably stop and think "He really is VERY concerned about this. Is it worth it for me to put him through all that?? Is it really THAT big of a sacrifice for me to make??"
Our husbands are the fathers of our children just as much as we are the mothers - and while we're the ones who carry the children, why SHOULDN'T the husband's fears and concerns be addressed just as much as our own?? He can't control what we do when we're pregnant, but surely he should have SOME say in it too!!
There are soooooo many grey areas - but really, is it THAT much of a sacrifice to make those choices TOGETHER, respecting each others fears and concerns?? I don't think it's "fair" for the mother to get to make all the choices herself without caring about her husband's feelings.
If my husband posted something like this, I might be a bit annoyed - but it really would make me stop and think that I really haven't respected HIS feelings, and HIS fears about his own child...
Just another perspective...
(and I'm not "shouting" when I use all caps - I'm just too lazy to make them all italics for emphasis...)Last edited by nicolejoy; 08-25-2008 at 04:39 PM.
- 08-25-2008, 06:02 PM #19Banned
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The nutritionists where I work (they make recommendations for pregnant women and infants/ preschool children) say that a woman should avoid a food if she herself has the allergy to that specific food. there is a family disposition to allergies, but not necesarily the same allergen. so if mom was allergic to peanuts, then baby does have an increased risk of allergies in general, but it may or may not be peanuts that the child is allergic to, it may possibly be peanuts, but it could be milk, or fish, or nothing, or something entirely different. So for your case if mom is allergic to dust pollen, etc, your child may have a higher risk of allergy, but you can't possibly predict what it will be, and because getting good nutirion is important in pregnancy, it would be hard to cut out every single possible allergy causing food and maintain good nutrition, hence the recommendation to avoid what mom herself is allergic to only. Hope this makes sense, if I find a good link I'll post it.
- 08-25-2008, 06:09 PM #20Banned
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I found the link,
These are the Canada National guidleines for nutrition in pregnancy and they base their recommendations on the current liturature. If you look under the part on medical conditions there is a seciton about fetal sensitiation that discusses this allergy issue. They also have all their sources listed if you want to search those as well, hopes this helps.
http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/fn-an/nutriti...les_tm-eng.php
- 08-25-2008, 10:25 PM #21Registered User
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What was the situation with your first child?
Did your wife eat peanuts during her first pregnancy?
Does your first child have any allergies?
I'm suprised that you consider eating peanuts once a month "large quantities". Maybe for your unborn babies sake you should relax a little.
Stress for the mother may be harming your child more than anything.
- 08-25-2008, 11:02 PM #22Registered User
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Originally Posted by tigerlily
Originally Posted by bekyboo44
Considering this is a forum where users can CHOOSE not to post or read, I arrived at ?Bitchy? as a suitable description of the post. Just consider that one could respond to every single post on this board with ?I don?t even know you and your post annoyed me? ? and in my opinion doing so is just bitchy. Feel free to show me the light.
Originally Posted by bekyboo44
Originally Posted by nicolejoy
Of course the whole ?argument? is over now. My wife and I have agreed together that it is not worth the potential risk to our child to eat peanuts. They?re peanuts, who cares?
Originally Posted by nicolejoy
Originally Posted by neha
Me: <grabs some peanuts>
Her: hey gimme some
Me: are you supposed to be eating these?
Her: well I have been eating them, whats the big deal?
Me: I thought they could give baby allergies and stuff
Her: I ate them at <1st babies> time and she?s fine
Me: yeah but that could just be luck, shouldn?t we err on the side of caution, just in case?
Her: I don?t wanna talk about this anymore
Me: <takes the peanuts away> - <posts on geobaby>
We talked it out and like nicolejoy said, she is great enough to respect the fact that husbands should have a say too. I know this forum has its fair share of militant ?this is my body? mothers, and good luck to them. Personally, these deals work both ways, which is why I don?t skydive, smoke (anymore), or drink the water in Mexico ? amongst many other things. I have a responsibility to my wife and kids, and my wife has EQUAL responsibility to her husband and kids. Pretty fair I think. The less enlightened may find it annoying, YMMV
Originally Posted by mel_g20
Originally Posted by leahH
Originally Posted by leahH
Originally Posted by leahH
Please do not assume we ?do not have investigation into <my> wifes existing allergies?. We have investigation, we do not have RESULT. It is an unknown. In my opinion that is not a license to throw caution to the wind, it is quite the opposite.
This morning our doctor and an allergy specialist (who conducted the last series of tests) separately confirmed that in the case of peanuts it would be better to stay away from them. Both of them indicated that we did not have to hunt out ?peanut content? on menus and in grocery stores, but eating plain peanuts ?straight up? could wait for a few months. This was advise given in light of my wifes current allergies to entities unknown.
Originally Posted by leahH
I would think it a huge failure on MY part, given my wifes condition, to not make sure the I?s were dotted and t?s were crossed.
I understand that all marriages are different. But for one to be ?horrified? for one?s husband to voice concern over decisions one has made in one?s ?highly charged, hormonal, emotional?..? state ? well that makes a lot of sense. Nobody likes to be second guessed, but when there is a third person involved, we all have to do it, including fathers.
- 08-25-2008, 11:05 PM #23Registered User
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My wife ate peanuts in limited quantities during our first pregnancy. Our baby does not have any peanut allergies.
The concern is that by eating peanuts you are increasing the childs propensity to inherit allergies of MANY types that you may have, not just peanut allergies. YMMV but given my wifes allergies with causes unknown, our doctors have advised against peanuts.
With regards to the quantities. My wife chucked out a big number at me (like 200 peanuts per sitting) just to get a reaction. I have not brought up the quantities as it is a moot point now.
- 08-25-2008, 11:13 PM #24
i REALLY think that you are a little OTT with your indignation. MUCH of what has been said has been said tongue-in-cheek (see bekyboo's comments).
please LIGHTEN up!
we are not a bunch of militant mothers!!! you simply asked a question and got a response. obviously many of us think that you are worrying unnecessarily and were trying to assuage your anxiety! instead you got VERY defensive and patronising.
YOU didn't post the extent of your conversation. what you posted came across as if you arguing with your wife over something as simple as a few peanuts!
OF COURSE, pregnancy is not JUST for the mother to endure, i often think that the father has the short end of the stick. he has to listen to us moan and complain, he has to put up with our moods, and there is not much that he can do except voice his empathy.
however, i will say that after two EXTREMELY difficult pregnancies, if my hubby started in on something like whether or not i had a few peanuts, i would not have necessarily responded kindly. i will admit, though, that i was MUCH more "careful" about what i ate during my first pregnancy than my second.
my worry for your wife is that if your poor baby ends up with allergies, she will never hear the end of it...
(i make this judgement after having read your last post)
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