The "giving of two options" have been working for me. Also, I have been very conscious about being consistent. Like today, she refused to go back to her car seat. I spent 10 minutes not moving the car until she rode the car seat. Also, I have been consistent on what can and cannot be done at certain points. Since I was pregnant 5 months ago, I realized I had lost a lot of energy to point out each mistake. So sometimes, this action is ok, other times, no.