Terrible tantrums - 15 month old

[kacoak]

He is sometime blunt at removing the object from my baby, making him cry. My hubby has tried that cry it out approach with my baby (specially when I am taking a shower).... It never worked, and I have always hated it.

Stick with the approach you are BOTH comfortable with. If done inconsistently, the cry it out method does not work, the baby will not get the message, and he will continue crying out of frustration.

[banane76]

Setting boundaries is really important. I recommend, Positive Discipline: The First Three Years. You can get it in the ShopinHK site. It helps you understand where your baby is developmentally and gives you a few tips on how to respond to a tantrum.

[rani]

Here's the link to the book

http://www.shopinhk.com/product.php?productid=158683

[Obiwan]

I decided to introduce time-out after reading this thread. So it has been 2 days, and is working out pretty well. Yesterday morning I explained to her what time-out is and how/when she will land herself one. She later went into a crying spell wanting something we didn't want to give her, and i did the 1-2-3, and she 'stopped' crying, not 100% but with quivering lips and teary eyes trying to control herself, then she came up to me, hugged my legs and said "i'm sorry mommy".

This morning, she refused to brush her teeth after my count, so we left her where she was and ignored her. After 5 minutes, she came knocking on my door with her tooth brush "Mommy, brush teeth". :)

[anotherone]

I decided to introduce time-out after reading this thread. So it has been 2 days, and is working out pretty well. Yesterday morning I explained to her what time-out is and how/when she will land herself one. She later went into a crying spell wanting something we didn't want to give her, and i did the 1-2-3, and she 'stopped' crying, not 100% but with quivering lips and teary eyes trying to control herself, then she came up to me, hugged my legs and said "i'm sorry mommy".

This morning, she refused to brush her teeth after my count, so we left her where she was and ignored her. After 5 minutes, she came knocking on my door with her tooth brush "Mommy, brush teeth". :)

Fantastic Obiwan! How old is your kid though?

[Obiwan]

She just turned 2 :)

[arleneli]

My son (16 month) throws tantrum when I ask him to do something he doesnt want like lining up during playgroup time. He doesnt throw tantrum when he doesnt get something but he does that when he doesnt want to do what i ask him to do. Can you guys suggest how to handle that behaviour??? I ended up letting him walking around because he actually threw himself on the floor.

Thanks.

[carang]

you deal with it exactly the same way. by letting him do whatever he wants, you are not helping him. you are letting him be the boss. you are the parent/boss. you need to firmly establish that or it will only get more difficult as he gets older.

if he throws a fit and then you give in and let him do what he wants, what have you accomplished? you've taught him that throwing a fit will get him what he wants.... guess what he will do next time?

sorry, but i see this every single day. it's almost like some of the parents are afraid of their child. (not you, just what i've seen) they are afraid the child will cry. they are afraid the child will be angry. they are afraid of asserting themselves and actually teaching their child what behaviour is acceptable and what isn't.

i always tell the parents that their child will have 1000's of friends in this lifetime, but only one mother and one father. it is the mother and father's job to parent their child, to teach the child right from wrong, to guide the child and teach him/her how to get along in this world. it is not their job to give in to every whim and fantasy the child has.